I think instead of asking our kids, "WHAT do you want to be when you grow up?" I think we should be asking, "WHO do you want to be when you grown up?"
The WHAT implies that things are more important. That vocation is more important. That aspirations are more important than living a life of character and integrity. Even if my kids don't become "successful" in the worlds eyes by having "it all," but have integrity and love for others, they are really better off.
Through all the educational institutions, learning programs, organizations and clubs I could put them in, the most beneficiary ones should strengthen their heart and character.
I think parents are so concerned with their kids being "successful," getting the "A" and having awards and accolades, that they forget about what's really important.
I have seen so many parents race to sign their kids up for the best preschool and wait on waiting lists to get in thinking that if their kids goes to that preschool, then someday, they will be able to go to Harvard.
I've seen parents put their kids into sports for years and years, thinking that the seeds that they plant will get their kids a full scholarship to college.
I don't want unrealistic expectations for my kids. I don't want them to think that simple things- like volunteering and putting God and family first aren't worthwhile.
I know that the deepest things, the greatest things some from moments of simplicity. I never want to replace busyness with parenting. I never want my kids to not "stop and smell the roses" along the way.
Even If my kids just grow up to be a good "ordinary" citizens, or simply a caring human being, or a loving parent or even just a mentor- then my greatest goals for them would be fulfilled.
Who do I want to be when I grow up? Hopefully a person that my kids want to be when they grow up.
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